Power of approval

During a 1-on-1 with my lead, I (or better to say we) came to a great realization that I wanted to share. Let me start by setting some context. Last half year, I've been running a new interim leadership position. It was on a temporary base to see if I was a good enough fit for the role. Due to personal reasons, the decision to make it permanent had been delayed from two months to half a year.

Although I mostly got positive feedback (of course, with some room for improvement), not hearing the final Yes made me doubt whether I was good enough. I was aware of my doubt but still thought I was doing my best to show I was a good fit for the role. But last week, when my lead finally said my position was permanent, I noticed that I hadn't been doing my absolute best. My doubt had been holding me back from doing my job. The week after the decision, I was much more outspoken, decisive and resolute in what I did. I noticed this change, but it caught the attention of my lead, as we discussed this in our 1-on-1.

We can see these learnings from the view of someone who needs to prove him or herself. If you find yourself in this situation, first of all, be aware that doubts might be holding you back more than you suspect, this will help to make a strong appearance. Secondly, be vocal about your need to get an opinion from your lead. Although this might feel awkward, most people like to provide feedback.

What we can learn as leaders is especially important as we are here to help people grow. If we give someone a position to see if there is a good fit, we should be very clear on what we think. And we should not delay making a decision. It might seem a luxury to have way more time than during a job interview to see if someone is good for the position. Don't delay the decision because it may not benefit you or the one being led.